![]() ![]() It’s important to recognize how chasing your idea of the perfect man someone could be, isn’t the same as not settling for someone who might already be. But chances are, it’s probably not okay with you deep down inside knowing that they can’t/won’t give you what you want in the long run. And that’s totally fine if that’s okay with you. ![]() You want what you want and refuse to settle for less than the butterflies you get once a guy gives you the runaround. For those of you picky girls, stuck in this place, I get it. Problem is, they are settling for giving unrestricted access to someone who doesn’t deserve it and is lacking the most important criteria of all wanting to be with you. Typically the girls that seem to got it all goin’ on but are still single are probably struggling with something like this but will pass it off as having too high of standards that no one can touch. Being too picky could be considered one and staying in a situationship with a dude that has everything you want except they won’t commit to you, definitely is. Let them think that, but remember that refusing to settle is not a flaw. Yea she looks good and seems mad cool, but what’s wrong with her that she’s still single? Everyone around you is wondering the same thing and comes up with the conclusion that the issue must be you. However for the girls out there rocking flawless IGs, with no man in sight, getting endless DMs, I’m right there with you, I can’t seem to understand how someone hasn’t scooped you up yet. For those of us who want it all, looks, chemistry, similar interests, security and fire sex, is it that wrong that we demand and expect these things when choosing a partner this late in the game or for the second time around? I’m still undecided on this. This does not always mean that I am too picky, as clearly I have picked many unsuitable guys. Yes, I recognize that my current bar is unreachable for most, but my mantra remains that I refuse to settle. Insert my mother, sister, and friends, “Marcey, it’s time to lower your standards a little.” I refuse to put any time, effort, an energy into anyone that may initially feel as if I am settling, aka someone who doesn’t reach my standards to begin with. They might not think they are settling at first, but then once they are too far in and start to feel that they have folded too quickly, they stay in as to avoid activating their Bumble and being subjected to more fishing pictures and being asked how their day is going so far.īut for the girls like me, who refuse to get that far into anything without probable cause, the problem is reversed. But for some of us, who can admit to this, finding love isn’t that cut and dry as–he’s single, I’m single, we’re around the same age and both have a pulse-it’s go time! At a certain age, settling seems like the best option for some. ![]() Who am I kidding, I have definitely considered settling on more than one occasion, and I have believed that I met the right person. ![]() So, when I reach for some variation of the two that’s more like the filtered truth, it goes something more like this, “I haven’t met the right person and I’m not settling.” I can explain the last 4 years of dating disasters which sounds something like this, “I like assholes, I like a challenge, I chase fuckboys, and I choose unavailable men.” All very true, however, no one wants to admit that, unless they’re in a therapy session or drunk at 2:05am on the way home from another unsuccessful mission with their bff. Whenever someone asks me why I’m still single, I can either reach for the truth or my rehearsed made-up speech about not settling. ![]()
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